Lies and sneaking around with a younger woman on Reddit.

February 6, 2023
Wow so understand how this mother feels. When I was going through the divorce my ex lied and snuck around and even asked our kid to keep secrets from me regarding the “other woman” which I at the time tried to tell him if you have to lie and sneak around then you know what you are doing is wrong.

She is still a Homewrecker and he is still a cheater who left for a younger tramp

January 30, 2022

The ex recently told me thank you for being nice lately. My attitude just doesn’t change the fact that he’s a Cheating piece of shit who doesn’t understand faithfulness and she’s a Homewrecking ho. My polite hatred shows I’ve come to accept it. Her faith thinks it’s got the power to anull my marriage, but that just shows me how Her religion, the Catholic Church, is hypocritical and fake. After all her church thinks it has the power to anull the marriage of a Baptist to an atheist just so the atheist can marry a Catholic without having a guilty conscience.

The true losers in all of this are the children. our oldest has a deep rooted sense of distrust for men since daddy wasn’t faithful to mommy and left mommy for a much younger woman. Our youngest still doesn’t quite understand why Daddy left Mommy to be with Sarah. She wants to know why Mommy isn’t getting remarried. After all Daddy‘s having a fake wedding.

Yes I call it a fake wedding because they were legally married two years ago on the Friday before his heart surgery. The wedding at the St. Louis Cathedral in New Orleans is as fake as it can be and it’s all just for show.

None of it changes the fact that she’s a Homewrecking ho who paid for a divorce and destroyed a family. A person cannot build a fairytale off of the ashes of a destructive raid.

So true!

January 12, 2021

I saw this meme on Facebook today and thought how true. A real Christian woman tells the married man to go home to his wife and kids. The fake and hypocritical Christian pays for the man to get divorced from his wife and then tries to play momma to another woman’s children. God and Karma. I believe in both.

Thumb Sucking to Teeth Grinding.

October 9, 2020

During my previous “week” with the children, my youngest informed me that Sarah peeks in the windows and watches when she sleeps to see if she is sucking her thumb. I had to reassure her that Sarah can not sneek around mommy’s home and that Princess A should rest and relax.

This week home with me, she told my mother and my best friend (when they came to visit) the same thing, Sarah watches when Princess A sleeps to see if she is sucking her thumb. She claimed Sarah sneaks around the windows to see if she is sucking her thumb at mommy’s home.

This is disturbing in itself because some how my youngest child is worried about when she sleeps whether someone is sneaking around peeking in a window just to see if she is sucking her thumb tells me there is some emotional and phycological fears around the thumb sucking while sleeping. Let’s not even get started on how this is mental abuse of a child to make a child think such fears.

I tried to reassure her that at mommy’s house she is safe and no one will ever sneak around mommy’s house. It’s not working.

Now she is grinding her teeth when she sleeps.

She is terrified to sleep alone and must sleep with me in my room. During the night she reaches out to put a hand or a foot on me to reassure herself I am still there.

Now you might ask how do I know she is grinding her teeth and reaching for me. Well I am a super light sleeper and really prefer sleeping alone due to the fact that every little movement wakes me. My now five year old child is scared to sleep alone. Every time she moves to touch me, it wakes me. I have woken several times this week to hear a weird sound that I had trouble figuring out what it was. Only to finally realize, it’s my child grinding her teeth.

So I looked up the research and medical information on teeth grinding. It can be caused by missing teeth or misaligned teeth. However it can also be caused by stress and anxiety.

It is bad on the teeth in that it wears them down, but it also causes headaches which this week Princess A has complained about her head hurting.

I am angry because I feel helpless. The arrogant ex-husband is allowing his homewrecker to scare our child. His attitude is that I have no say in what happens at HIS house. I am starting to think maybe our child should not be at his house if he is going to participate in causing Princess A emotional and phycological stress and anxiety over THUMBSUCKING!

I would have preferred the thumb-sucking over the grinding teeth issue which can cause long term and lasting damage to her teeth just as much if not more than the thumb-sucking. This leads to long term damage in the jaw bone which can lead to adult TMJ.

Just like with the potty training, she would have eventually been ready to stop sucking her thumb, but obviously it is not the time to force the issue.

Homewrecker needs to stay in her lane.

September 5, 2020

So tonight the girls are back with me. Frankly I despise the 50/50 thing; I don’t feel it is always in the best interest of the children.

Tonight, my youngest whimpered and cried at bed time. When I asked her what is wrong, she said, she wanted to suck her thumb. I asked her why she felt she could not. She said because SARAH said something about her needing to stop sucking her thumb and said something about her teeth. Sarah made her feel bad.

Um excuse me?

When did Sarah become mom? Sarah is the homewrecker. The destroyer of a family for her own selfishness. I don’t hold my ex-husband blameless in the family falling apart. In fact he is completely just as selfish and guilty. He lied to me. He lied to Sarah. He made promises that he broke. However, the point here is not about the past but the future. The children that are MY children and HIS children. Sarah needs to know her place.

She is not mom. WE have been through this before. Two years ago when THEY decided to potty train the baby. It was not their right to decide behind my back that it was time to potty train. That was a discussion he should have had with me. That was a decision he should have made with me–not behind my back with Sarah.

Pre-homewrecker, I potty trained the oldest by myself after discussions with him. He wanted no part of it. In fact, his attitude was that if the child was a boy it would have been on him to potty train, but because our child was a girl it did not feel “right” for him to be the one potty training her. He left me to do all the work on potty training our oldest child. I found a way to potty her that was loving and not shameful nor traumatic and maintained proper modesty.

Then post-homewrecker, while I was forced to go out of town for a work training, he and homewrecker decided to use a method of potty training where the child ran around the house completely naked during the week while I was gone. He decided without talking to me that our child would not attend the daycare during that week, so that he and Sarah could potty train our youngest at home. Um that was a bit of a fight between him and I then. I was pissed and rightfully so. I never let our oldest run around completely naked during potty training. I put her in dresses to make it easier to potty train but she was covered to maintain modesty. More importantly, he did not have the right to make a major decision like that regarding our child without discussion between him and I–but he likes to be sneaky and do shit behind my back.

He can claim, “it’s his home” all he likes but these children are MY children with him. Not his children with her. Thus legally all major decisions made regarding our children should be made during a discussion with him and I, where she gets NO input or say in the matter. If he and I can’t agree, then we are required to get a mediator and/or take the matter before a judge.

Therefore, it is not Sarah’s place to decide to say anything to a child that is MY child and HIS child, but not her child, regarding something like thumb sucking, potty training, etc. Before deciding to try to break a thumb sucking habit, he should have discussed it with me, and we should have decided a plan of parenting around that issue together–him and I. Consistency is important with children.

One set of rules at one home and a different set of rules at the other house harms the children mentally and emotionally. Only he doesn’t want me having a say because I am not allowed to have any control over MY children when they are at his home–that’s his attitude. Um that is not in the best interest of the children and NOT even the way this co-parenting shit works–legally.

I am sure he does not remember how I broke our oldest child’s finger sucking, but it never included shaming her. It was done quietly in a manner that never made our oldest child feel bad for sucking her fingers. In fact, recently I reminded someone in my family of this very fact not too long ago when that person dared to say some thing to Baby A recently about her thumb sucking. I reminded someone in my family recently of how J sucked her fingers and I had a very effective and painless way to deal with the finger/thumb sucking when I–the parent–was ready to deal with it.

My baby child whimpered and cried tonight because Sarah said something to shame her about her sucking her thumb. Not Sarah’s right. Not Sarah’s place. She needs to get in her lane and stay in her lane. She likes controlling and taking over MY home, My family, My lane way too much.

NOT Sarah’s place to make decisions regarding MY children. Not Sarah’s place to discuss things with him regarding our children or how the children are raised without ME–the mother–being a part of the discussion and plan. It dang sure is not her place to shame my child for any reason.

I got fixed because HE didn’t want more children. He also did not want to risk “some doctor cutting him down there and making ‘it’ not work anymore” so I had to be the one to get cut up to prevent further pregnancy. Now, despite the fact I would have loved more children, I can’t have more. She is young and intact. He can get her pregnant and give her children of her own that him and her can raise together and make all the decisions they want together. However my children are not her children for her to make those decisions.

She has done enough damage to my children by destroying the children’s family and forcing the children to bounce back and forth between “mommy’s house” and “daddy’s house”.


Update: He called to discuss the issue, and rather than argue with him, I accepted his lies. He lies so very much. He thinks I am stupid and don’t realize when he lies. ugg. He claims Sarah never told our child that she could not suck her thumb. Our child just magically out of the blue started asking if she could suck her thumb, so they are gently encouraging her not to suck her thumb. He lied to his mom all the time when we were together, and I watched and learned. I know when he lies. ugg. How did I ever fall for his bull shit.

One Big Happy Family

July 22, 2020

My youngest daughter was 22 months old when her father decided he wanted a divorce so he could be with his 21 year old Homewrecker that he met at work. Three years later, our child tells me that she wants mommy, daddy, and Sarah all to live together in one home.

In the beginning, right after the divorce, our youngest would cry when daddy would pick her up to take the kids to his house for his parenting time. Daddy didn’t want her when she was born and never bonded with her during that first two years.

It wasn’t until he decided to have an affair and get a divorce, that he suddenly decided to fight for 50/50 time with our children—after his attorney informed him that child support in Florida is based on a formula of over-night count plus parent paycheck. His attorney informed him no judge would give him 50/50 over-night time if he was working nights, so Louis immediately changed his schedule to days when he had refused to work day shift previously. He wants to pay as little child support as he can possibly pay. When his affair first started, before divorce was even filed, Louis moved out of the family home not because I forced him to move out, but because he chose to move out when I told him that there would be no dating other people while living in the house together. He wanted to be with Sarah Broaddus so badly, he basically abandoned his family and his home. It wasn’t until they (I say “they” on purpose because she paid for it—see previous posts for picture proof) decided to file for divorce that he decided to move back into the family home so he could fight to keep the house despite the fact he promised that I could stay in the house and raise our kids there. It all came down to he didn’t wanna pay child support, he didn’t wanna provide the family he was abandoning a home, and he wanted to be with a home wrecking tramp.

So now fast forward three years, Sarah doesn’t want to be seen as a homewrecker. So they tell our children that Sarah is not the reason mommy and daddy are divorced. They tell our children that Sarah loves mommy. Now my child cries when I have my nightly video chat during daddy’s week to say good night because she wants mommy to hug and cuddle her at night, then she insists mommy, daddy, and Sarah all need to live together. My youngest child informs me that Sarah loves mommy and we should all live in one house as one big family.

I don’t think Sarah‘s precious Catholic religion would go for that considering she is the interloper in the family. Louis and Sarah can lie all they want but the truth is that he had no intentions of getting a divorce until Sarah came along. He likes to claim he’s just such “a good actor” whenever I ask how is it that I never saw it coming because I thought our marriage was based on true love, and his affair came completely out of left field. I believed our marriage was stable. Her friend once informed me about how Sarah told Louis she wouldn’t date a married man and that he had to get a divorce. Only Sarah doesn’t seem to understand that a good Christian doesn’t say, “you have to get a divorce”. No, a good Christian woman tells a man, “I don’t date married men, go home to your wife and children.”

So when our child says she wants all of us to live together, I don’t think Sarah would be too happy with that particular scenario. Sarah is the one who doesn’t really belong.

DayCare Lies

May 25, 2020

They like to pretend I am crazy because I won’t tolerate her playing mom with my kids during his time and acting like she is the mom with my kids’ school teachers. NO. He is daddy. I am mommy. Teachers can talk to me or him but under no circumstances is SHE allowed to make any decisions regarding my children.

He lies constantly. He (or more likely she as he hates doing paperwork) put in an application at a daycare that THEY want our youngest to attend because they don’t like the daycare he and I picked out BEFORE the divorce. TOO BAD. I found out the application had her name and his name on the application to the new daycare. I had called to ask a few questions and the daycare director told me my name was not on the application. When confronted he, of course, lied and said they put all three names on the application.

From the beginning, she has gone out of her way to push herself on my kids. From the beginning he has pushed her on the kids.

She doesn’t face me because she knows she was wrong to get involved with him while he was married. She wants to sweep it under the rug and pretend it never happened. She wants to paint a fairy-tale for herself and pretend he was not actively married with two young children. She wants to play mommy to my kids and act like I just disappeared from the family so she could step in with my kids and husband.

She is a homewrecker, and she will always be a homewrecker.

The Exit Affair

May 25, 2020

This writer nailed it. I have to share it. I have heard too many times that he didn’t leave me for her. He just wasn’t happy with me anymore. I have heard too many times how she didn’t break up our marriage.

Yeah she did. He flirted. She told him to get a divorce. He did. She paid for said divorce.

He was practically forced to cheat on me because our relationship was so awful.


He does not want to accept the blame or feel like he did wrong. Heck just yesterday he said, “Just get over it.” NO. I don’t have to get over it on YOUR timeline. NO, you have not once made amends but continue to do stupid shit to make it worst not better.

Are We Still Having Spaghetti For Dinner?

We’re all familiar with this term, right? It’s what they call it when your spouse leaves you for someone else. I guess it differs from the “just want to fuck ‘em” affair somehow.

I’ve never liked the term but I couldn’t put my finger on why until recently.

…minimize the cheating and wrong doing, instead focus on the shortcomings of the relationship.

As in: Yeah, I cheated. But I haven’t been happy for a long time/we haven’t been happy for a long time/we’re not right together/our relationship would have ended anyway/we’ll be much happier apart/it’s for the best, etc. etc.

I think this is another form of manipulation. You’re not allowed to react, get angry or upset about them cheating on you, because instead they’ve switched the focus to ending the relationship as if the affair never happened- they’ve sidestepped and minimized the affair and gaslighted you into thinking your…

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The Catholic Church..

May 25, 2020

So evidently the Catholic church thinks it is allowed to nullify a marriage that was not done in the Catholic Church between two non-Catholics. Furthermore, it gets to do it for a non-Catholic who is a self admitted non-believer. Finally, the Catholic Church does it for the benefit of one of their members who wants to marry the self-admitted Non-believer despite the fact that, YES, the marriage did happen. Yes, the Catholic girl did cause the marriage to fall apart. The Catholic girl paid for the divorce just so she would be able to claim her man is free and not married.

So basically who gave the Catholic church this power to declare my marriage which produced TWO children is invalid? By what power do they have the power to declare the marriage null? God’s power. Because Marriage is sacred. Um yeah it is so why did a Catholic girl get to destroy my marriage?

Yes, I have been marred twice. The first marriage was a year long and produced no children. In fact, I miscarried during that marriage. I was not “blessed by God” with children during that marriage.

My second marriage was blessed with not one but two children–despite the fact that on the second child I was actively preventing conception–we were blessed with a second child that I honestly am surprised I carried to full term. The first child was a miracle, let alone the second child carrying to full term because of my previous 5 miscarriages. With our oldest we did not tell our family I was pregnant until 17 weeks because we did not think I would carry full term, as I had several miscarriages before our first child carried full-term. I have always said that GOD blessed me with my first child because I prayed for her and wanted her so very badly. My second child I dedicated to GOD because he made her perfect, not me.

Then the second pregnancy (after 6 miscarriages) and birth was a MIRACLE! I said that to people. GOD blessed me with my baby girl unexpectedly because I was not actively trying to get pregnant, but instead was actively trying to prevent because Louis didn’t want more children (even though he refused to get fixed).  When I carried full term with the second pregnancy without expecting to even be pregnant–I prayed. I prayed GOD please let this child be healthy because the father, Louis, did not want to have her. In FACT, the father, Louis, wanted me to have an abortion and terminate the pregnancy. I refused the option of abortion unless the child was not healthy.

PROOF that my marriage and pregnancy was GOD ORDAINED is that when I prayed, GOD answered that prayer by having the amniocentesis numbers come back according to the doctors as “the most perfect numbers ever seen” thus showing my pregnancy was indeed ordained by GOD and that this pregnancy was meant for by GOD. I even promised GOD I would raise her in his name and praise him if he allowed this pregnancy to be a healthy pregnancy. Hence, despite the fact that my ex-husband does not believe and did not want me taking our girls to church, I started attending Hillcrest Church for the simple fact that I promised GOD that my youngest was his miracle. Thus, YES, my marriage was ordained by GOD despite what the Catholic church and the the little tramp-homewrecker wants to claim.

So by what right does the Catholic church think it is okay to nullify the second marriage when neither marriage occurred in the Catholic Church. Both marriages were legal by the state in which they occurred. Both marriages were dissolved by divorce in the state in which the marriage occurred. No wonder people have begun to hate the Catholic religion–they are full of themselves and think it is okay to declare anything they want to the benefit of the Church and the Church’s members, never-mind the reality or the truth.

A truth! I was married LEGALLY to Louis J Crochet. We have two children. Sarah Nicole Broaddus destroyed that marriage, and now we are divorced.  It was a divorce caused by her. Not null. Not void. Very real marriage. I got the paperwork to prove it. Both the legal marriage certificate and the divorce paperwork. AND I have two beautiful children to prove GOD wanted us married and the homewrecker destroyed GOD’s will. This has nothing to do with the Catholic Church which is evidently becoming a corrupt false religion. GOD’s will was done in my life; not her church.

She wants to be married in the Church to a man who just today admitted he doesn’t believe in God. He admitted he is still, today a non-believer. I believe in GOD; he does not.



April 25, 2020

How does one recognize trauma? It was that feeling when online shopping where a website greeted me with, “O Hey, Gorgeous!” when I felt that heart stopping moment of fear. That moment when I felt that moment it took a few more moments for me to realize he is not watching my online movements–despite the fact that he is a self-proclaimed computer genius and code writer. It was just a word for the website to greet customers. Not him using the nick-name he had for me for over 14.5 years. “Gorgeous”  A word. A simple word that was meant to make the online shopper feel beautiful but which caused me extreme emotional stress for just a few moments until logic re-asserted itself.

I have been slowly coming to realize that my ex was a controlling and manipulative person with shit tons of charisma so his controlling never became physically violent because he is that person who could talk his followers into drinking the kool-aid. In fact, he, himself, admits he has that type of charisma.

Unfortunately for me, I fell for that narcissistic jerk who only really truly cares for himself.

I look back on the relationship now and wonder, how did I stay in a relationship that was so one sided? Why did I stay when he used me for so long?  He used me and my family (along with his family) for financial support. He used me to do all the responsible stuff like filing paperwork and filling out forms–which then he would sign as if he did the paperwork. He used me to keep the house clean and always made excuses that he just was not “detailed orientated”. He made me feel useful and needed because I felt without me, he would not get his “grand” things done which he was always working on something “grand” even if it never panned out.

When we had his oldest daughter visit, he used me to provide her the care while he got to play and have fun.  What money her mother received came from either his mother or because I saved and sent money. I would even write out checks for him with the amount we could spare and take the check book to him just to have him put his final signature on it so it looked like he was being responsible, not that he was letting me do all the work.

Of course he never formally paid child support because he was never legally declared the father. I tried to help him get the legal paperwork done by saving up money that then got given to his mother and only a portion of that actually went to a legal consult, which never amounted to anything. I mean why would he want to legal claim a child when he can still see her without the legal paperwork? Her mother allowed her to see him from 5 years of age until 10 years of age when the daughter herself decided she no longer wanted to see her father–all that time without him having to pay child support.

So back to that moment when I saw the words, “O Hey, Gorgeous!” I have slowly been realizing I was used by my ex to provide while he systematically built his own ego up and slowly devalued me and my worth not overtly but with sly innuendo. After all I had to take care of him in order to be worthy of him and his attention. He has moved on to someone else now and has her paying the bills and has her doing the housework. He has her taking care of the details now with providing care for our children while he is still Mr. Fun and games.

I know now that I am worth so much more. I deserved so much better. I deserve a partner not a leech.