Modern Law Protects the Wrong doers

Recently, a friend’s husband who has been very sick, shoooed a large (pit bull type) dog from their property. As the husband, turned to go back into the home, the dog growled and rushed at the husband. The husband then pulled his firearm (licensed to carry) and shot, not the dog but in front of the dog, to scare it away. It worked and the dog went home with a few rock fragments in its face. The owner of the dog had a fit when a neighbor told the owner what had happened. The police were called. The friend’s husband was arrested. When he was arrested the police even agreed it was messed up that animals have more rights now than humans because if a human had threatened the man’s home and property the man would have been justified in shooting under the stand your ground law. Thankfully the entire event was caught on video as the friend and her husband have video monitoring around their home. They were able to eventually prove what happened using the video and get the charges dropped but only after the stress of bailing out dad who had been arrested in front of his 11 year old daughter, going to arraignment, filing for a court appointed attorney and praying they could get one because while they own their own business it is not a huge money maker thus they pay their bills but don’t have the down payment a lawyer wants for the upfront legal fees. Thus for weeks this family was under stress over not only dad’s illness but over legal issues and money issues.

Why is this aggressive dog allowed to run free in a neighborhood? The owner should have been more afraid of the citation for allowing his dog to terrorize the neighborhood than worried about his dog being shoooed away from a property with force.

So this started me thinking that in today’s society, our system has begun to protect the criminals and the wrong doers rather than the innocent.

Look at the divorces now. “No fault” states insist there is no fault even if a spouse is cheating on his/her partner. This is not fair to the spouse being cheated.

50/50 custody even if one of the parents had neglected his/her relationship during the marriage with the kids means that the neglectful parent can suddenly “attempt” to have a relationship with kids who don’t really want that parent in their life just so the neglectful parent can get out of child support.

Louis never wanted to fight for his Rose (his oldest daughter from his first girlfriend) despite the fact that I saved money up to try to get a lawyer. Gave that money to his mother who spent $100 on a legal consult but never followed up with the rest of the money I gave her but instead used it for pay for a trip to see and pick up Rose for a summer vacation. He wasn’t paying child support but was getting to see her occasionally until she turned 10 then SHE rejected him because she didn’t want to travel so far for a man who never called her or paid her mom child support when she had a new daddy supporting her mom.

He didn’t want Princess A and even asked his parents to loan him money on the pretense we needed it to pay an electric bill (yes we had an electric bill that was partially paid but he told them twice the total so he could get more than we needed) because he wanted me to terminate the pregnancy. He now likes to claim that he told me it was “my choice” but he definitely put pressure on me to terminate while saying it was ultimately my choice. He said he didn’t need any more kids. He mentioned he had Rose (despite the fact that he never sees her anymore). He mentioned we had Princess J already, so we didn’t really need another child. He didn’t want another child but well it’s my body so it’s my choice. He even looked up costs and clinics in the local area for the termination of the pregnancy.

He pushed Princess A away from birth until 22 months. When I was stressed with trying to breast feed, he pushed me to continue in a way that he never pushed me to continue with Princess J. With Princess J he was fine with her switching to formula before she turned a year but Princess A he reminded me that it was “better for her than formula”. At the time he made me feel it was mostly because as long as I had to breast feed Princess A then I was the main care taker thus he could get away with not really taking care of her. I had to rush to work at the last minute and rush home from work at the last minute so that he would not have to spend much time providing care. Meanwhile he would leave for work an hour early and come home whenever. I had no free time for me and little time to keep up with my work. He started going on “team building” dinners with his co-workers.

Then suddenly he gets a new girlfriend and wants to play daddy to a child that doesn’t really know him well.

Our oldest, Princess J, I can understand him wanting time with her as he was there at her birth and bonded with her during her early years. Princess J and her dad have a good relationship. Princess A is really not as invested with her dad though.

Princess A tells me all the time that she does not want to go to daddy’s house. She wants to stay at mommy’s house. Unfortunately, I can’t do anything about it because the law doesn’t recognize that he was a crap dad to her before the divorce. The law only cares about giving him a chance to be a dad now so that he doesn’t have to pay child support.

Once upon a time adulterers would have been stoned together both (my ex and his homewrecker) but now we give them lollipops and tell them they don’t even have to help take care of the family they destroyed.

The wronged are not even allowed to speak out against the wrong doers without being accused of bullying or sued for liable these days. It does not matter if someone does something wrong, the innocent are supposed to shut their mouths and not try to warn others that this may happen to you too.



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