Angela's Blog

I have been recalling all the times my cheating husband Louis talked about his co-workers. I finally realized something about his lady love at the office. Yep, that’s right, my husband is the cliché “man cheating with a much younger co-worker at the office” guy. So I recall back in the early part of the year a story Louis told myself, his family, and even my best friend, Jenn.

So this girl was so very upset over her fiancée dumping her that she could not go to work. The fiancée dumped her so he could run off to join a seminary for training to become a Catholic priest. I recall Louis joking about what a blow that must have been to her self-esteem considering he left to be a priest. He even made a joke about how the guy must have been gay or she just really sucked in bed that bad because no self-respecting man would ever leave good sex for celibacy in the priesthood.

Now at the Navy Federal Credit Union office where Louis works, he is known as a bit of a jokester who plays practical jokes on the others in the office. Their supervisor has previously mentioned how Sarah really needs to be included in the office group of games and fun to team build and make her feel like part of the team because evidently she is so shy and reserved.

So Louis goes on to tell all the family and friends about how this girl Sarah Broaddus that he works with called in sick to work, but she was not really sick just heartbroken. The supervisor sent out an email about how Sarah is going to be out for the day, but Louis decided to play a practical joke by altering the email message and snapping a picture to send to Sarah. In this email he played with he put in a part about how employees pretending to be sick but the boss knows. He makes it go on about how employees are going to suffer consequences for playing sick when they are not really sick.

He knows Sarah is playing hooky because her bestie KKBFF is in contact with her via texting. So figuring Sarah being the up-tight religious girl that she is, he tells KKBFF to not let the joke go on for too long but to let Sarah know it is a joke before she freaks out. They send this joke mail to Sarah, and she freaks before KKBFF can tell her that it was a joke. Sarah ends up calling the supervisor all upset and worried.

Now when I recalled this particular story, I asked Louis if his new girlfriend that he dumped me (his wife of 14 years and mother of 2 of his children) is the same Sarah he told me about whose boyfriend ran off and left her to become a priest. He confirmed it was indeed. This baffles me.

So I talked to my best friend about it. I told her that evidently this Sarah who stole my husband is the same twit who was dumped by her fiancée to become a priest. That I remember Louis played a joke on her. At which point, Jenn interrupted me to exclaim, “O my God! I remember that story. Louis told us that story when I was there for your birthday. That is who he left you for? He talked about her as if she was such a ding bat ditz. What the hell! Why would he leave you for someone he made fun of like he did back in March?”

So I am thinking and thinking about his various comments over the past year when I realized, she turned her back on her faith. I remember more recent conversations in which he emphasizes “formerly religious” as if she has turned her back on her faith totally and completely. This would attract Louis as when he and I met he was all about how he was agnostic because while he believed in a higher power, he was not sure which religious group if any had the truth of the higher power. However, over the years, he became more and more atheistic. As time passed in our relationship, he began to put down and mock any religious group he came into contact with. In fact, his anti-religion got so bad that I had to put my foot down about not discussing religion because he would become out right offensive toward me for my own beliefs in God. As far as he was concerned all organized religion was just evil. He would disrespect my right to my own beliefs and hurt my feelings with his hatred of organized religion rather than be willing to accept that I had faith despite his constantly berating of my beliefs.

So of course when a good little Catholic girl gets dumped by her religious fiancée, he mocked it, then when she was easily led away from her faith into the non-belief side of religion, he would be there to guide her on the path to freedom from religious belief. This would also stroke his ego. He always liked to joke about how he could be a cult leader and get his cult to drink the cool-aid. I guess Sarah is his first cult follower.

Obviously, she has self-esteem issues over her fiancée leaving her, while Louis is getting his narcissistic tendencies stroked by her blindly following his guiding her away from religion. Sounds like a match made in heaven or is it hell? I don’t know but I don’t think this is a very healthy relationship in that she is obviously going after a married man just to make herself feel good about losing her fiancée. Does she think she can’t attract a man her own age? Did her fiancée leaving her make her so insecure that she can’t see herself having any chance other than a married man 15 years older than her? Damn that fiancée must have done a real number on her self-esteem.